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The path of the victim of a narcissists' 'love' is filled with the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. People often speak of having the best relationship they could dream of; then slowly realize they are in a web of pain, confusion, loss of hope, and depression.

Most are convinced they are the cause for the discourse between their partner and themselves, though they are never quite sure how they did it. Conversations are spun from nonsense and accusations cut like a knife.

One thing is absolute - these conditions are the result of a narcissistic lover. Though several traits are experienced and to different degrees, there are many similarities in cases common with the disorder.

This work study is divided into 5 courses, each with several lectures, videos, slideshows, and narrations. Throughout the course, links and suggested resources are shared, such as further information on a specific topic, medical analysis and views of a particular trait, online forums and blogs to give us all a place to interact. There is always a direct line to me too, for questions and answers, privately, or as discussion topics for future posts.

As stated on the initial page and throughout this work-study, you will see these issues, conclusions, and guides are based on my own experiences and information I have drawn on from the past 17 years of association with romantic narcissists, as well as the research garnered, studies analyzed, and conversations a plenty.

I fell madly in love with an intelligent, successful, handsome, and charismatic man who turned my world upside down, changing my life forever. When the dust settled, I found myself alone and $30,000 in debt, stripped of any confidence or self-worth.

Within the next 6 months, I would lose my job, be diagnosed with cancer, have to say goodbye to my closest ally (Teva, my border mix dog), declare bankruptcy in order to keep my home, and eventually come to terms my ex-fiance is a romantic narcissist (this feat has taken more time than all the others put together). I was a shadow of my former self, lost, without confidence, and unable to look farther than 5 hours into the future.

But the worst of all these set-backs was how I had focused my attention on this shell of a relationship and (temporarily) lost my daughter to an evil worse than drugs. My son, as I later found out, was victim to my aversion also. What had distracted me from the safety and love of my own children and family was an individual so consumed in his own self-image, that he projected that false image on me. I take full responsibility for everything my world rippled into. There are too many emotions and words to describe my last 10 years.

Fast-forward: My kids are now grown, happy and successful, and we have a wonderful and close family. I am lucky they don't blame me for my neglect; but I do feel I've lost a level of sincerity in my word and my devotion as a mom. Now, they believe I'm just smothering... :p

My path from desperation to success has been long, educational, and lonely. If there is anyway I can help just one person heal and recover from the focus of a narcissist, then this work-study will have been worth every moment of dedication. If I can make the recovery time shorter, the message more clear, or the support more continuous, I hope to provide it here, because knowing

you are not alone,

you are not crazy, and

you will survive to be a deeper and more enriched person,

is a goal every romantic narcissist's victim can achieve!

Always here and listening,

Capri